Even before “the big day,” it was decided that my bride would take my name. Henceforth she will be referred to as Lady Overseas, or Mrs. O. Mrs. O. has brought a joy and energy to my life that I hadn’t previously known. She was working two jobs when we met in 2015, one at Fit
How to Avoid the Friendzone
It seems young men are starved for information on how to successfully traverse the dating world. After appearing on The Top Romp Show last week, something I barely mentioned garnered the most attention: The Friendzone. In fact, the question I’ve received most since the podcast aired: “How Do I Avoid the Friendzone?” The Friendzone is
Opportunity Knocks for Savage Thinkers
There’s a popular video on Youtube I revisit quite a bit. A motivational speaker is giving a talk to NCAA athletes, imploring them to be savage like a lion. He says, “Everybody wants to be a beast until it’s time to do what beasts do!” It got me thinking. How might his message apply to
10 Things I Learned from Meditation
After one year of meditating daily, I’ve decided to relinquish all my possessions and enter a quiet life of contemplation. That’s actually not true. The meditating part is true. I meditated every day for a year, missing only a few days. Now that I’ve finished, I feel more like a guy who took a walk
7 Habits of Highly Happy People
I write about happiness because I want more people to be happy. Many of us are chasing materialism, which is like chasing the wind. Others are playing status games, not realizing how brief life really is until death. “So it is inevitable that life will be not just very short but very miserable for those
First Impressions of Africa
When I was growing up in the 1980s, Africa was portrayed in the news as a continent riddled with war and poverty. It’s partly due to the nature of news—sensationalism sells—but it was also stark reality. Many wars in Africa ended when the Berlin Wall came down in 1991. Still, by the mid-90s, thirty-one of the continent’s
Revisiting Normandy on the 74th Anniversary of D-Day
When I visited Normandy, I stayed in Bayeux. The old French town is a 2-hour train ride from Paris. It’s a beautiful area known for having inspired Impressionist artist, Claude Monet. The British Cemetery and Bayeux Cathedral were walking distance from my hotel. My tour guide picked me up 100 meters from where I stayed. We
A Golden Memory on Memorial Day
A lot has happened since my last post. I’ve now got a gold wedding band on my left hand! I’ll write about the BIG day and post pictures as soon as we receive them. Today, I want to say ‘Thank You’ to those who’ve served our great nation, and share a story I’m reminded of on
Making Rational Decisions with “Yogi-isms” [in Costa Rica]
When I was a kid, I was obsessed with baseball. I wanted to be like Yogi Berra. He was one of my favorite “old-timers” because my grandfather, “Fats,” was an Italian catcher from the same era. If I hadn’t been born a southpaw, I probably would’ve been a catcher too. Berra was not only a
Navigating Relationships [for Men]
Relationships are hard. They’re even harder when you’re stupid. Many years and tears brought me to this realization. Truth is, I still may be no better at relationships than you. My best qualifications for writing about the interplay between men and women are a preponderance of boneheaded moves. Richard Feynman once said, “I don’t know anything,
Feedback from my Masculinity Article
The topic of male/female differences, and our respective communication styles, is seemingly taboo in our society. Our unwillingness to discuss inter-gender dynamics helps none of us in relationships. How men and women interact is the basis and barometer of our civilization. I can think of no more valuable skill set to possess than that of